I find that I have to redirect his focus on me when speaking with him. Otherwise he continues the behavior, like kicking his legs in the air or pinching his clothes. I spend a lot of my visiting time reassuring him that we love him, that we care for him.
Not to make him feel as though he is taking a "Step back", but what about a communication flip book, they can be tailored to the things that he generally would like to express, are a symbol alphabet (which may become more beneficial as his disease process continues) , and can be used in conjunction with verbal discussion to help get over the humps. He can help in the process of making the book and choosing the things he wants to be able to communicate.
I have a very lovely man in our dementia care unit. He is very friendly most of the time and with prompting he will participate in some activities. The problem is he can speak English but is now only speaking Italian and I can understand him. I prompt him to speak English and I know he is trying but he just gets stuck. We have another person who speaks English and Italian but he can figure out what he's trying to communicate either. Apparently their are different dialects and they can be very difficult. How can I communicate or understand what he is trying to say. It's so fustrating for him. I try simple sentences or gestures but it only makes him more frustrated. I try to redirect but that frustrates him and I don't have it in my heart to just walk away so I continue to listen and he eventually gives up. I don't want him to just shut down and not talk because we can't understand him. Anyone have and suggestion other than me learning Italian, or hiring a translator?
Hi Donna, how lovely of you to consider learning Italian to speak with your client. This is what make our profession so special. Sadly, I donât have any knowledge of courses in dialects, Italian or otherwise. Congratulations on your compassion. You are quite right, if nothing is done your client will stop speaking altogether, which would be a crying shame. Many facilities have translators but for especial or emergency occasion only. I would try instead try to find volunteers fluent in his dialect. You could try the Community Board of Churches and Supermarkets; place a request for volunteers in your clientâs dialect. Best wishes.
Great tips, thank you. I also find being up close and looking and speaking directly whilst looking the person in the eyes can also help. Really show you are concentrating on them and speaking solely to them.
Almira
14th Jun 2016
Recreational Activity Officer
This is worth sharing to other RAOs ( Recreational Activities Officers). I will definitely share this in our up coming network meeting this month.
Thank you for the clear statement of these ideas which speak with empathy directly to me as carer. They also give an enduring voice to my Loved One, in ways of which she will not always be capable.
Importantly, the tip "1. Realise Your Challenge" leads the list rather than appearing awkwardly later.
I just want to let you know, I really am glad to be your member. I am learning so much with your information and I create daily activities with your help. My residents are so happy and this means the world to me. Thanks to you all.
I spend a lot of my visiting time reassuring him that we love him, that we care for him.